I have just received the following comments all the way from India from a young Indian friend of mine written after she had read my blog of 30 September 2012: My relationship to Metal: another new insight”.
Her guardian element is Water. She is not an acupuncturist, but has been treated with five element acupuncture and as a result has developed a great interest in our approach.
“I read your last blog with great
interest as I could almost visualise the nature
of the conversations.
Conversations are one important way
I try and look for elements as I am not often able to sense the colours or
smell or sound (sometimes I can). More than the exact words, I often
focus on how the conversation proceeds, how the other person talks and what I
feel.
I don't think a lot of what you have
described rests upon your needs or temperament in the clinic (except perhaps
how you might judge the net result of a conversation) because I have very
similar feelings while dealing with the elements, coloured of course by my own
element.
What I mean is: Initially I always
had a difficult time with Metal because it was hard to sustain a conversation.
I always felt they were judging me and I was not holding their interest
sufficiently. I also tend to talk more under these circumstances
(sometimes I clam up but that depends on whether I am trying to reach out or
whether I don't want to have anything to do with the person). However, I
suppose my kind of talk in this case would be different from a Fire person's.
I just talk about whatever I can manage to think up every moment; it is
sometimes fruitful and informative (as Metal people carry a lot of information
with them) but not a relaxed kind of conversation.
I also have a problem with Earth
because of the tendency of Earth people to direct the conversation so strongly
and too easily (and illogically) overrule things that I might mutter or mumble
(and I would only say those things once before retreating and letting Earth
take its course). Earth is such a strong element in its manifestation- I
feel they have a strong maternal aspect radiating from them but this is not
something that draws me to them or that warms me. It is based somehow
more on their needs rather than on being sensitive to mine though they may be
well intentioned.
Fire is the element I am most
comfortable with. I am not always relaxed in their presence but I don't
need to worry about taking charge of conversation and I know that many Fire
people will actually want to listen to what I say. Even though they are
doing a lot of talking, they are good listeners.
Wood is hard again and even when Wood
is not pushy, there is always a latent tension inside me hoping that the push
will not come suddenly and unexpectedly.
Water - I find it hard to recognize
many Water people! I do recognize some and in those instances, even if
external appearances of the element are different from mine, I can understand
their behaviour. I find (especially lately) my voice certainly has a
droning tendency and I do sometimes interrupt people in the middle of what they
are saying (and I am trying not to do this because people naturally do not like
this!) I think it is sometimes because I am afraid that I will not be
able to express myself on some matter (i.e. the conversation may drift to
something else or people may not hear me) and sometimes the desire to share
something is so strong that I impulsively chime in. I think these are two
different- (positive and negative or yin and yang or however one may describe
them) aspects of water that motivate me to react in a seemingly similar way but
with different reasons, during conversations.”
It is very rewarding for me to see how an understanding of the elements can help a person in their interactions with other people in their daily life. Thank you, Sujata, for your insights.
(And anybody interested in getting a real flavour of life in India today may like to look at her excellent blog sujatavaradarajan.blogspot.com.)