We make all sorts of assumptions about other people, since we usually see them from our own perspective. It requires great insight and humility to try to step out from under the shadows each of us cast around ourselves and move into the sphere of another person. Unfortunately we often delude ourselves that we understand another’s viewpoint whereas we are simply using our own viewpoint from which to judge theirs.
We must learn never to assume that we know
anything about anybody else until we have proof from them that they are as we
think they are. This is the secret of being a good therapist, and also, of course, of being a good parent, partner or friend.